The Four Keys of Sacred Ecstasy

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Diana and I are really looking forward to presenting this series of 2-3 hour "mini-workshops" among the splendor of world-renowned Mii amo Spa at Enchantment Resort in Sedona, Arizona. For those of you able to join us, it will be a fabulous opportunity to participate in a daily class, and have plenty of time to do your "homework" in one of the most spectacular settings on earth!

Using breath and presence, movement and sound, you will deepen into your natural capacity for open-heartedness and self-acceptance. With exercises that you can easily learn and practice on your own (or with a partner), you will gently wake up the sacred energy of ecstasy that is the very Spirit of your body.

And have outrageous fun doing so!


Mii amo Spa HOMEPAGE
Registration: Mii amo, a destination spa at Enchantment, 525 Boynton Canyon Road, Sedona, AZ 86336. 888.749.2137
Reviews HERE

(we do programs for singles from time to time also... see HERE)

Glenn and Diana

Flier (suitable for framing!) HERE

Thursday, July 23rd
5:00 – 8:00 pm (Library / Café)
Orientation, Dinner and Retreat Overview

Friday, July 24th
1:00 – 3:00 pm (Library)
You will learn simple practices that cultivate deep spiritual Presence in all your relationships. Discover how every person (including yourself!) is a potential Beloved to whom you can connect with love and kindness.

Saturday, July 25th
10:00 am – Noon (Library)
Your Body is Alive and Free!
Learn about the energy centers of your body (chakras), and how to activate and stimulate the healthy flow of Life Force (or Chi, Prana, etc). Remove “blocks”, and feel re-vitalized. Prepare to be amazed at the beauty and perfection of your body!

2:00 – 4:00 pm (Library)
The Heart Aroused
Practice opening your heart with honesty, humor and passion. Intimate knowing of oneself is exciting and enlivens all your relationships!

Sunday, July 26th
9:00 – 10:30 am (Library / Café)
Closing Ceremonies
Integrate the skills you’ve learned and see how you can practice them in everyday life. Breakfast is served at the Café immediately after the session. Share with others (your experience, that is!)

Creating Sacred Space

When People participate in ceremony, they enter a sacred space,
Everything outside of that space fades in importance.
Time takes on a different dimension,
Emotions flow more freely,
The bodies of participants become filled with the energy of life,
And this energy reaches out and blesses the creation around them.
All is made new
Everything becomes sacred.
- Sun Bear

"Creating Sacred Space"... I can hear the eyeballs rolling already! Men, stay with me.

If you're reading this blog, I'm assuming you're interested in Sky-Dancing Tantra for improving your love life, or health in general, maybe even deepening your spiritual practice. Or all of the above. The trick is, as I'm sure you already know, you can't get there from here. Unless you're actually "here". The profundity of the Present , as fully realized in a moment of mind-blowing sex or deep meditation, is not a goal to be attained. As Leonard Cohen so eloquently sings, "love is not some victory march." And, as Westerners, we have to be especially creative if we wish to phase out this never-ending cycle of much ado about nothing.

Enter the keyword "sacred".

Derived from the Latin sacrum, or "holy" (wholeness), and sanctum "set apart", we have here the perfect alternative to picking ourselves up by the bootstraps. And all we have to do is set some time apart (30 seconds), and declare our "wholeness" (another couple of minutes).

As a former eyeball-rolling male, I can attest to my initial reluctance to take on this moment apart in the bedroom. At first, I simply went through the motions robotically, not expecting much. What very quickly became obvious to me, however, was the calming effect this little ritual had on me - it completely interrupted my program of "do this/now this/now this" - and relieved me of tensions and expectations I was bringing to my lovemaking that I hadn't even been aware of. Over time, it has brought a tremendous amount of sweetness and clarity to my relationship with Diana. And energy - did I mention energy? More on this later.

Creating sacred space can actually be quite elaborate, involving cleaning and preparing your room, sharing a bath, preparing special foods... it could take a fair amount of time. This was what Sting so infamously remarked upon several years ago when a reporter asked him about his Tantra practice and he boasted of seven-hour lovemaking sessions.

(context, you have to put it all in context)

For our present purposes, I will focus on two simple rituals you can share with your loved one that epitomize the creation of sacred space and can be practiced immediately. I refer you to the many resources that are available for sacred space creation on the web and in Margot Anand's comprehensive books.

The Beloved's Mirror (or Heart Salutation)

Used at the beginning of your date night, or when you notice things are "getting going", the Beloved's Mirror is a powerful expression of gratitude and honor that allows you and your Beloved to bow to each other in a space set apart from the "usual". Exchanging the Sanskrit greeting Namaste, which means "I honor the Spirit in you which is also in me", we not only re-cognize the divinity in our Beloved, we also acknowledge our own divinity. Another explanation of Namaste I like comes from spiritual guide Ram Dass: "When you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, there is only One of us."
  • Sit facing your partner for a minute, gazing gently at each other
  • Allow your exhalations to be full; inhalations can happen automatically
  • Bring the palms of your hands together, fingers pointing down. EXHALE.
  • INHALE as you lift your hands to your heart
  • EXHALE as you bend forward gently to touch your partner's forehead
  • Exchange the word NAMASTE
  • Take in the full sense of honor and reverence of this gesture - for you and your partner
  • INHALE as you lean back gently, keeping your hands folded against your chest
  • EXHALE and lower your hands to the earth, hands still together, fingers pointing down
some tips:
  • Your eyes can be opened or closed... if open, maintain your connection with your partner; if closed, open your eyes upon completion of the last exhalation. Diana and I usually teach keeping the eyes open.
  • "Namaste" can be expressed during the leaning forward exhalation, or at the end. We like it as our foreheads touch.
  • You may wish to add a short statement such as, [Your partner's name], I honor you as an aspect of myself or the Beloved in me bows to the Beloved in you
  • The Beloved's Mirror is also particularly moving as a closing ceremony following lovemaking, however glorious or ordinary your occasion was. Just sit up take a breath to center yourselves and bow to the miracle of two people sharing Energy and Life!
The Lover's Bubble

Now that you know Who you are and Who you're with, you can make your mutual space whole or Holy. One of you can begin by stating what you are letting go of, or "tossing out" of your Lover's Bubble. It might be the tension of the rush-hour traffic you were just in, or the memory of a difficult co-worker that morning, perhaps even the anxiety you are feeling due to your expectations in the moment, of "wanting to do it right".

Simply say, I am letting go of expectations/anxieties/anger from this morning. Then let your partner take a turn, and go back and forth, listening to yourself as well as your partner. Notice how exposing and naming your fears in the safe place of trust you just created in The Beloved's Mirror renders them harmless. As Margot says, "Hiding gives strength to negative feelings; sharing in an atmosphere of sincerity and trust dissipates their power. Moreover, when you connect with a partner who is truthfully expressing deep feelings, more energy becomes available as a bond of authenticity develops between you." The Art of Sexual Ecstasy, p. 83

When it feels right, when you begin to run out of negative charge, switch to calling in those energies or qualities you wish to embody or connect with in your sacred space together.
I bring in peace
I bring in acceptance
I welcome humor and silliness
I bring in gratitude

The creation of sacred space is a gift to yourself, your partner, and your Relationship that can add deep joy and ecstasy to your love life and beyond.

May the sacred energy of your loving bless all of your relations!


The Daily Candle Ritual

This is a simple but sacred way to connect with your
partner every day. The Daily Candle Ritual is
nourishment for the soul of your relationship.

The ritual takes only a minute and should be done
every day whether you feel like it or not,
especially if you don't feel like it. Over time, it
becomes a point of safety and connection in the
relationship. At first, it may seem that the ritual is
too simple to be meaningful.

Trust that it is not too simple.

Do the ritual exactly as described without making
any changes. One of the values of the ritual is
that it is reliably the same every time. It speaks
to our bodies, not our minds. It talks to us in
ways our minds do not understand.

  • sit facing each other
  • light the candle
  • exchange ritual statements
  • blow out the candle
  • get up and leave

  • one person is the host for the ritual each day
  • men host odd days
  • women host even days

  • ensures the ritual happens on his/her day
  • lights and blows out the candle
  • says the ritual statement first
  • ensures that the ritual is terminated without further discussion

  • where the ritual will occur (the same place every day is best)
  • to use the candle for the ritual only


Man to Partner: "I Care About You"
Woman responds: "I Heard You Say, You Care About Me"

Woman to Partner: "I Appreciate You"
Man responds: "I Heard You Say, You Appreciate Me"

Thanks! Blessed Be! Aloha! Viva!

Diana and I shared a personal peak experience this past weekend as we presented our annual Valentine's workshop/playshop, "The Heart Aroused", in Scottsdale Arizona. We extend our heartfelt thanks and kudos to all our beautiful participants who worked and played so hard, stayed true to their own hearts, and taught the two of us so much about how the heart changes everything when it's open. We offer special thanks to our gracious host Ben, and our all-round go-to guy, Warren!

Whether it was the uncanny synchronicity of a rare astrological alignment (see HERE) coinciding with the day we all dedicate to the patron saint of Love, or the whispered scent of the first wild flowers on the wind, our circle was one of extraordinary energy, trust and surrender. At every step, individuals and couples pressed beyond concerns and agendas, and demonstrated a vulnerability we've never experienced in such a new group. The meditations were deep. The process sharings were soul-stirring. And the dancing raised the roof! Did I mention the feast?

After exclaiming about it to each other all week, Diana and I agree that our program fulfilled our original intention of sharing how Sky-Dancing Tantra teaches (in the words of Margot Anand), "the difference between falling in love, and rising in love... a state of deep clarity and conscious bliss".

Once again, deepest blessings to all, and to all of you reading along!

Diana and Glenn

A Valentine's Day Playshop!

The Heart Aroused - A Gift of Love

~~~~ A Sky-Dancing Event In the Phoenix Area!

"Don't count on sex to be the door to intimacy. It's the other way around; first develop intimacy skills, then make love to enjoy them."
Margot Anand
The Heart Aroused:

A Valentine's Gift of Love

Scottsdale, Arizona
February 13-14, 2009

Friday 7-9:30pm, Saturday 9:30am-9:30pm

Make this year's Valentine's Day one to remember forever as you nurture and recreate yourself in a sumptuous day-long playshop of healing and celebration. With meditation and movement, sacred ritual and a sensual evening feast, you will be able to feel for yourself the beauty of your own Heart. As we share with you the four basic secrets of tantric ecstasy, you will realize a deeper knowing and loving of yourself, learn how to be a fantastic lover, and create what you want in your life and in all your relationships!

This engaging workshop is for singles and couples alike, ages 18 to 80. Whether you come by yourself or with a partner, you will find Sky-Dancing Tantra to be an enlivening and nourishing experience. You'll discover the amazing shift of meeting your partner and other new friends on a level of intimate trust and understanding. And you will take home practices that you can develop and build on to cultivate a lifetime of ecstasy, radiant health and connection with Spirit.

  • Realize and accept your heart's natural perfection
  • Rediscover and feel how sexual energy is the physical expression of your higher consciousness
  • Develop trust in your love life
  • Allow our specially crafted "deep heart" music to heal and awaken your playful and innocent self
  • Invite spirit and soul back into sex so that the physical and spiritual aspects of your nature become one.

Free Evening Introduction!
Friday, Feb 13, 7-9:30pm
"How to Make Love With Your
Wild, Wide Open Heart"
Vision Quest Book Store (link)
2225 N. Scottsdale Rd,

Scottsdale, AZ (map link HERE)

Call for Saturday's Scottsdale Location and Directions!
Saturday, Feb 14, 9:30 am-9:30 pm
"The Heart Aroused"
Diana at 928-445-7501, Glenn at 507-649-2488


Diana Owens LCSW, CST, is a licensed clinical
social worker, certified sex therapist, and a
Certified Sky Dancing Tantra Teacher.
Glenn Bourdot is a writer/musician and trained
Mankind Project facilitator with 30 years
experience in Re-Evaluation Counseling.
Diana & Glenn are life partners, committed to
co-creating a spirit-filled, loving, and peaceful world.

Cost: $135 per person, $210 for couples
(lunch, dinner and snacks included!)

$105 person, $185 couple


To register:
go to (link)
and click on “What's New”, "To Register"

or call Diana at 928-445-7501, Glenn at 507-649-2488


“Sky-Dancing Tantra teaches that in the heart, we learn the difference between falling in love, a biological narcotic rush, and rising in love, a state of deep clarity and conscious bliss.” -Margot Anand