Choosing the Loving Way: Choosing Spilt Milk

Choosing Spilt Milk

I'm always talking about the same thing. Ask Diana. It's why we're together, I believe, but I'll say more about that later. Right now I'll just stick to what I know.

Beyond the overwhelmingly obvious link between sex and Heart (you may all nudge-nudge each other now), it simply just blows my mind that whatever form Reality takes, it looks a heck of a lot like what I say it is.

Great sunset? Blessed be. Spilt milk? Aww, shhh... ummm, I mean, Ah-Men!

Margot Anand offers a thumbnail definition of tantra that also applies to this peculiar ability of "the world out there" to mirror our inner assumptions about it. "Choose with awareness", she says, "that which brings you joy, and opens your heart to spirit."

Needless to say, I am indebted to Margot (and Diana) for the title of this very blog, Choosing the Loving Way. Here, I intend to highlight, celebrate, and rave sublimely about the sheer miracle of Existence, the galvanizing power of Shadow, and the ineffable breakthroughs into Light and Love Itself. Choosing the Loving Way will also serve as a means of networking and creating community for all those interested in Diana's work and writing and our workshops together.

For now, I will leave you with another photo that I took of Diana and me this summer, as I am still learning how to use this site! And just because I can...

Namaste'

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Diana Owens is a licensed clinical social worker, certified sex therapist, and relationship coach. She has trained extensively in and taught yoga, Sky-Dancing Tantra, and Yoga Meets Dance. Diana has a private psychotherapy practice in Prescott and Phoenix Arizona, and is an avid runner. She is a tireless advocate for the human body's ability to transcend all limitations.

Glenn Bourdot is a licensed massage therapist, lifelong researcher of the body-mind connection, and teacher of many diverse disciplines, including Re-Evaluation Counseling, Mankind Project, nutritional counseling, and sacred theater. Glenn is a singer-songwriter-guitar aficionado and long-time adherent of radical longevity.

Diana and Glenn are free life partners, supporting each other to live beyond self-imposed limitations, and they dedicate their work to inspire all people to end the separation between mind and body, spirit and flesh, and one another. They are eternally grateful that this very moment is a manifestation of their Heart's desire.

And yours!

Contact us at:
diana@lovingway.net
glenn@lovingway.net

Diana's New Book Is Out
In Softcover!
Soulful Sex:Weaving Sex, Love, and Spirit Into Everyday Life

"A great, fascinating, inspiring book. A must read for those who love soulful sex and sacred space."
~~ Margot Anand

Drawing upon her three decades as a certified sex therapist and using a deftly winsome interviewing style, Diana's conversations with experts in the field of sacred sexuality brilliantly illustrate the potential we all have for spiritual transformation via tantric practice.

Through personal stories and easy to follow exercises, she paves a way for us to honor our precious sexual (Life) energy, and continue to grow into more intimacy, joy and love in all our relationships.

Available at Diana's website, http://www.lovingway.net/, where you'll also find information about her courses and Tantra Talk Radio, as well as our workshops together. Highly recommended!
-- Glenn

Web site link: The Loving Way

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A common obstruction to a vital intimate relationship is what writer/pronoic Rob Brezsny calls the assumption of clairvoyance. You imagine, perhaps unconsciously, that your partner or friend is somehow magically psychic when it comes to you -- so much so that he or she should unfailingly intuit exactly what you need, even if you don't ask for it. This fantasy may seem romantic, but it can sink the most promising alliances.

To counteract any tendencies you might have to indulge in the assumption of clairvoyance, practice stating your desires aloud.

The preceding oracle comes from Rob's book, PRONOIA Is the Antidote for Paranoia: How the Whole World Is Conspiring to Shower You with Blessings.

What Is Tantra?
A terrific summary article by Diana Daffner
"When I smell a rose, I smell it in this moment, not yesterday or tomorrow, but right now, right here. And if I embrace that moment of smelling the rose as the prelude to a spiritual experience, if I invite the rose-smelling into my total being, aware both of the scent and my bodily response to the scent, aware of the softness of the pedals and the rose energy in my heart, then in that moment I am open to the fullness of who I am. This is tantra.

Tantric Laws of Intimacy
"Intimacy with someone else requires, first and foremost, coming to peace with your own emotional and physical life. This is not a small task, but it is a crucial one. It takes time and courage and forgiveness, coming from you to you. If you want a love affair that is sexually electric and truly intimate, you have to begin by unblocking and unleashing the sex force that is already inside you and learning to feel safe expressing it, in whatever way feels right to you. In order to do that, fear and rage and grief – feelings that you’ve learned to resist – have to be acknowledged and cleared out on a regular basis, and that alone can be one heck of a ride.

What I’m trying to say is that this whole process is going to take time. It’s going to take some time, a lot of tolerance, and a lot of deep breathing. Fasten your seatbelt and settle in for the ride.”

Laurie Handlers, Sex and Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy